How will I cope if I have breast cancer? A person with breast cancer may undergo several “crises” at the following stages: When they are told the diagnosis When they are starting treatment When treatment is not successful When treatment is successful because now, one has to live with fear of recurrence and future health problems
Shock, disbelief, denial, uncertainties, damaged self-esteem, self blame, and negative thoughts are only natural. It is best at this stage to get help from support groups like the Breast Cancer Welfare Association in Malaysia or your family members and close friends. It also helps to gather information, get the best medical care possible and also do not fear the medications that can help you cope. Finally, one should not be embarrassed or be ashamed to seek professional counseling. If you have a positive attitude, it will go a long way in helping you recover faster. Communication is vital between the doctor and the team managing you and may influence your decisions. Your psychological adjustment will depend on your attitude towards medical practices, hospitalisation and the specific treatment recommended for you. A breast counselor (part of the management team) who is specifically trained in counseling women with breast cancer has an important role in helping you go through this difficult period. Fears and anxieties, how loss of a breast may affect your relationship with your partner or if unmarried any future partners, relationship with family and friends, what clothes you may wear and even what activities you can engage in need to be talked through with someone you trust. It is important not to fall for “false assurances” and you will need to be told about side-effects and degree of incapacitation from the surgery and chemotherapy and/or radiotherapy. Physical recovery after surgery includes regaining physical strength, returning to previous activities, and coping with the emotional problems associated with the loss of a breast and having a serious disease. Advice on exercises, diet, breast prosthesis and clothing are important. We must not forget that others close to the breast cancer patient may be just as devastated by the diagnosis and ordeal of treatment. Sometimes, professional counseling for all in the family may be helpful in working through problems encountered and anticipated. | 
